thanks purple long day of C here. our counselor tried walking me through some IC about my parents and my fears with them in front of H. I answered honestly, got a bit emotional about things.. when the C questioned some of what he thought were irrational thoughts about being 'disowned' H did speak up and say.. no.. she's right, both sides of her parent's family have done that repeatedly to their siblings.. she has reason to be afraid of that.
C asked me to write my parents a letter explaining to them how I feel and what i want from a R with them. And then wanted to bring them into C for me to read that letter to.
At this point I'm really uncomfortable doing that with him. I don't feel he understands my relationship at all with my parents. My IC & I have been working on that along with my other issues for over a year.. and it seemed to me that this guy asked about 6 questions in 3 minutes, and then said you need to do x, y, z with them, because until you do, you won't be able to do a, b, c with H.
Now H feels justified in saying.. "see, it's not about me, I don't have to bring my parents into counseling."
ugg.. sometimes he is so 10 years old.
I"m 'shredded' as SC would say and headed to bed. night all Bridge
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
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