It sounds like drama is comfortable for her. She wants to stay connected to you and drama is a safe way for her to do that. I think that's why she doesn't want to let go.
I felt sad when she only responded to taking on half the debt. Did she not even blink about sole custody of Tawny?
What is the go with Ross? I want to be clear about who he is gonig to live with as far as you're concerned. Only for my own curiosity!
** Purple
As soon as you trust yourself you will know how to live. Goethe