make sure our spouses feel better with us than they feel with OM/OW. We are still pandering to the tyranny/whims of desire.
But when their brains are drunk on hormones, endorphins and everything else that goes with an affair, reasoning with them about what's right isn't going to be very effective I'm afraid. Because they really know what they're doing is wrong, they are just too euphoric to care. So while we're pandering, we're also employing strategies that may be more effective. Maybe.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012