Still moving in a positive direction

[phoenyx]

I felt bad for her. I forgot that she had not done as well as she normally does. It's like divorce creeps into every little aspect of your life.

yep, i'm now having the same fight that i had in january. xw wants to put s9 on meds because he got an f and 2 d's out of a stack of papers that were all a's. his self esteem sucks because he has adhd(xw diagnosed), it has nothing to do with the fact that good grades/behavior isn't recognized, only the bad. ignores the fact that problems started when she split. ignores the fact that behavior improves when daddy was engaged, fiancee leaving was a blip on his map, and her involvement in his life didn't affect him at all, thus minimizing her own involvement in hurting her children yet again....
went through the process of diagnosing him for meds in january. his doctor, his father(that's me), his teacher and his therapist, all agreed. the teacher coddled him, the therapist is a quack, his doctor isn't qualified, and my ego won't allow him to be on meds...... so now she is taking him to a specialist. maybe he can tell her that his problems are because she treats him like her mom treated her, or that divorce isn't good for children, or maybe he can tell her to leave his daddy the f^c# alone and let him live his life, accept the fact that she screwed up and atone for it instead of poisoning everything she touches...... stop blaming me for her miserable life, and deal with her issues at least for the sake of her children.... 3 years post bomb in october, 3 years post d next march
yeah accept that our walk aways know what they want(and let them go). right, regret doesn't matter. regret comes in many different forms, and causes many different casualties.
guess i should have posted on my own thread, sorry