Trusting, You're at a low point here. Keep that in mind. Of course you feel abandoned and hurt. I am so sorry. I wish I could give you a hug.

Remember you can move on and GAL but still DB at the same time. You can continue to be kind to H while still having boundaries.

I also felt abandoned when my mom was very ill. Notice the article on the main page "Where were you when I needed you?"

H has never inquited about anyone in my family. Your H did extend you some kindness during this time (which I doubt my H would do). And he seemed to feel that he wanted to reach out to you but did not know how.

Let yourself grieve here. And let yourself let go....


M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
I remarried New Guy
Cooperative r w/X regarding D