it's even harder doing the 1 finger iphone post while driving on the comuite to and from work. At lest when I play with it in the jet there is less to hit. Hope you day is good. No new Orleans for me. We cancelled all together :o(
Me 27, W26 T-12 M-4 SEP 4/29/08 Holding 250 miles Awaiting Support Current
Just wanted to let you know that I am having a party on my wedding anniversary as on that day my H goes on holiday with his new gf! I'm inviting all the girls that have supported me recently.
It's on the 19th - don't suppose you're free to hop over the Atlantic and come??!! lol
Me:36 M:16 D final: 08/09 Ds:10&5 Ss:8&3 Bomb 3xPA 200 sexual encounters 15/06/08
It's on the 19th - don't suppose you're free to hop over the Atlantic and come??!! lol
Oh, I wish I could come, HC! I'll be there in spirit, though. It sounds like fun!!!
Before I forget, I wanted to recommend to you to check out Starshyne's thread in Surviving--her husband just admitted to her that he has a SA. You guys might have some things in common.
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
Ahhhh-my computer's finally all rehooked up now, in a new spot. H moved the last of his big stuff out last night. And I spent all of yesterday organizing and rearranging. Looked through all my old photos--happy to see what a interesting life I've led so far, a little sad over the ones with H. We looked so happy then. Oh, well--there are more adventures ahead, with or without him. : )
My place is a little bare, but it's looking good and bigger with more open space. I have much more to do, cause H's move displaced nearly everything. Those are my weekend plans--getting this place livable again.
H and I have been getting along pretty well during the moving.
Good signs:
H asked if anyone was using the garage space that we gave up when he moved out. He concocted some story at the time that would be easy to go back on in our landlord's mind if he (and the car) wanted to move back in/we were to reconcile. So, it was interesting that he is still thinking about that garage space. It's no use to him where he lives now.
He said that he does want some of our wedding/honeymoon photos after all.
He went out of his way to thank me for helping him move. (Contacted me after he left.)
We shared food, talked, and joked around.
We hugged. : )
I tested the waters about asking him what I could do to change, and I think I'm gonna go for it (make it an excuse to hang out) because he reacted well--he actually started to defend me. "Everybody gets frustrated sometimes." (He should know!)
Bad signs:
The apartment he chose to move in to sounds, in a word, really crappy. I seriously don't understand what happened to his decision-making skills--it's like he's punishing himself with every new decision that he makes. He says it's to save money, but he could find something MUCH better for the money he's paying (only about $200 less than what I pay). The place has one solitary kitchen drawer, no heat (a plug in space heater!) and is less than half the size of our apartment, with no closets. He's also currently sleeping on an air mattress.
I really don't know how to act/feel about his new living space. I hate the idea of him there! I know I can't control or try to "help", but it really hurts me to think of him living there. I haven't seen the place yet, maybe if I actually see it I will feel better.
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
Hi lost sounds like a lot of good stuff there, I think its cool that he wanted wedding pictures and stuff thats much better then pretending that it never even happened, and the the thing about the garage is interesting.
I agree with Julia bout the apartment but i think that I can agree with him to on that one. I almost moved into a complete dump, and would have done so if they would have let me take my dog. now that I am here I love it but the idea of saving money was way more appealing. I think that for most men there is a huge difference between living conditions they will except for them self and what is acceptable for there families. thats why most bachelor pads suck.
I am also very glad that he was receptive to you questions about you, I hope he keeps that kind of stuff up. hope the weekends continues to be good for you!!
Me 27, W26 T-12 M-4 SEP 4/29/08 Holding 250 miles Awaiting Support Current
It's true that his explanation is that he's trying to save money, but he's actually paying on the high end for his area. I checked on Craigslist, and there are much nicer places (granted, via photos) with actual full kitchens and heat and storage space, garages, heck even hardwood floors & pools! in his same area for a couple hundred dollars less. That's why I attribute it to another bad decision that he's made, that I can't understand.
Sigh. I have to stop worrying about him on his mixed-up journey.
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
