The problem is that what we agreed to a month ago was done after hours of arguing about it. We finally came to agreement on my proposal with a few changes. After he saw it in writing again, he flipped and said no way.. We were so close to a final settlement and now he's suddenly willing to take me to court and spend thousands of dollars on a different attorney in order to get his way on parenting time and also not have to pay child support (which I waived orginally anyway). He's a very emotional decision-maker so I think that's why he flip-flops so much.
I'm certain I could end up better financially if I pushed it. But, that has never been what is important to me. It's stability for D4 that I'm worried about.
I am so scared right now that I will have to give up my baby... This is so ridiculous... The sad thing is that having an affair probably won't be a big decider on who gets more time with D4!
First, my L knows stbx's new lawyer very well and I guess he is way more reasonable than the last one who was VERY adversarial. I think that could be good and maybe we can avoid some ugliness.
2nd, I think stbx bs'd me the whole time on agreeing to my proposal. Right after that he moved back into the house. I'm really starting to think that it was all part of his/his L's plan to make him start to look better.
Am I paranoid or just figuring out the truth? YOu just never know with someone who has been deceiving you for so long!!!
2nd, I think stbx bs'd me the whole time on agreeing to my proposal. Right after that he moved back into the house. I'm really starting to think that it was all part of his/his L's plan to make him start to look better.
Am I paranoid or just figuring out the truth? YOu just never know with someone who has been deceiving you for so long!!!
I don't know, but I do wonder if maybe his L gave him the advice to move back in? Definitely sounds possible to me if it does give him a legal advantage. And then of course he wouldn't tell you that he's moving back in b/c his L told him to!!
But even if it has nothing to do with that, I mean I don't think that should change your actions or behavior towards your H. You need to really have a good attorney that will look out for your best interests and also for D4 as well I think.
Well, he had an awesome day, he was so excited. Loved the bus.
I on the otherhand, cried most of the day and my other S2 was moping around, missing big brother. It was so sad.
S2 starts pre-school on Monday, just two days a wk for 2 1/2 hours... Oh Lord, I will actually be by myself for that time. I Haven't been alone without them in about ummmm 2 years. Really, I always at least have one of them, mostly both. That wiil be hard.
Thanks for asking lo... I know it will get better. They are just so much a part of me.
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
I know what you mean... Sweet little punkins Make the best of those 2 1/2 hours.. So many things that you could do for yourself. I'm sure the time will fly!
My wife once told me the reason she treated me like sh*t was because I didn't value myself.
I think, perhaps, all of your DB friends need to brainstorm on how to remain calm and fair but being to start drawing hard boundaries about the kind of crap you will accept from him.
If he wants more time with daughter, it will cost him financially.
and my other S2 was moping around, missing big brother. It was so sad.