Well some of you may know me from way back. I have been out of the loop for a while now due to the fact that I believed my wife and I to be reconciled and growing as a couple. I have found out over the pst 5 months that this is indeed not the case.
Basically what has happened is that my wife cannot seem to let go of her relationships she has developed with OM(en) online while we were seperated (about 2.5 years). We have been "reconciled" for over a year now.
I have attempted to be patient, all the while knowing that she had still been in contact with OM(en) but especially another man who she had met on eHarmony and got fairly serious with.
When I knew that she was not being honest with me about her contact with him and the others, I confronted her on it. She lied to me about them. This happened over the course of several months and every time that she was confronted on it, she lied to me about them. EVERY time. Then she'd play the pity card and try to tell me she loved me and she was done with all of the and reassure me.
I did the DB stuff for a long time. Then I just started seeing that it wasn't working and that I was being played for a fool.
I'm tired of this. She has a real problem here. She just can't seem to let go of her men and can't seem to commit to me as her husband and sole partner. She seems to "need" the attention from these other men.
I have attempted to get her talking about it but every time that happens, she just says that there is nothing going on and plays the pity card. I get nowhere. Then sure enough, I find something else that she knows she should not be doing as a married woman.
I finally last week told her that if she doesn't stop this we're done. I can't do it anymore and shouldn't be expected to. Enough is enough. She either gets it straight or gets out. I have even offered to get counseling and to just talk honestly about what we need to do. But honest is not something she seems to be able to do with me. The trust i gone. I just don't have it for her any more.
I am at a total loss here people. I am just about ready to kick her out. And yes, that's the way it's gonna go down. I left last time when it wasn't really my problem. I'm not leaving again. If she wants to end this, she's gotta go, not me.
