Well, I wonder how many of those marriages under those circumstances with one or both cheating on their spouses would have greater joy in their next R long-term? I think when the initial chemicals and glow wear off, you still would have an R with its shares of joys and pain and boredom.
Well we know about 65 - 75% of marriages that reault from infidelity fail. That leaves the other 25-35% that last a lifetime.
I don't know how many of those 25-35% realize that the grass only seems greener on the other side and that any relationship has it's up and downs, so.....perhaps they grow up and stick it out with spouse #2. Maybe some of them are genuinely happier. Maybe some are incredibly happy. Who knows?
My point was, that in DB-ing we are supposed to attract our spouses back. It's morally neutral.q It's plain and simple: make sure our spouses feel better with us than they feel with OM/OW. We are still pandering to the tyranny/whims of desire. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. If our spouses end up marrying OP, we have a 65-75% shot at telling them later, "I told you so! This wouldn't last." But there's a 25-35% chance of them getting away with it scott-free and telling themselves, "I'm so glad I got out of that marriage."
What I'm saying, is that even if there seems to be the promise of perfect, personal happiness (in this life) through infidelity, I would still say it was wrong.
Or more simply, we shouldn't do the wrong thing, even if we can get away with it, and it would seemingly enrich us or make us happy.
In the cosmic eternal scale, doing the wrong thing always bites us in the a@@, but out time-table is not God's.
