123Snap, hey there, I am so glad to see that your starting to feel a bit better. I am also glad that you can see the positives in backing off and how it allows your H some space to breath when he needs it right now.
I said the same thing to my H the first time he returned to me, that he cant just up and leave again. I didnt realize at the time that 5 months later he would go through another huge bout with depression and leave me again. When that happened I felt like giving up for about 2-3 weeks. But then shortly after I could feel my love was still there for him and I was right back at DBing and the boards. I guess you dont know how you will feel unless if it happens to you.
The other reason why I didnt stop DBing after his second and third times he ran was because I had read here many times that that is rather common with MLCers and WAS's. So I accepted that if others could go through it and come out on the other side than why couldnt I. It is starting to pay off. My H has thanked me several times for how great I treated him when he was hurting me so bad.
I hope that your H will figure this out with out leaving you again. He seems to be hurting badly but he hasnt given up. Maybe he is starting to realize that his happiness or sadness is not because of you- but rather he is in control of that. It is a slow process, but your H seems to be on a good track by doing the counseling.
