Not really sure what to say really. Well, I know what to say but its how to summarise! My sitch continues to be one that fills me with 50% hope and 50% confusion/fear. Not the most encouraging of emotional cocktails but progress nonetheless.
The WAW continues to remain what can only be described as 'fiercely independant' and is particularly vehement about the subject of me moving into the house. Its not that she is TOTALLY refusing to discuss it... rather that she doesn't want to discuss it any further than we already have. Basically, she has said if things go well then I can look at moving in within a couple of months.
I do not discuss the (hopefully ex)OM with her (since she told me she had ended it with him). I can find no obvious reason to believe that she is contacting him anymore or vice versa. That isn't to say there isnt a possibility that she has done... but I am starting to think that, if they were talking, things would have taken a turn for the worse by now. I also am starting to think she would have begun to cool things down with me.
We continue to have a good time and there are times when I really feel she is close to me. Still, it is also obvious we are far from out of the woods.
She remains very quiet at times. She is VERY quick to reinforce she is an independant person and she is very keen to spend time alone quite alot.
I am basically thinking that these behaviours indicate one of two things:
1. She is entirely unsure that she has done the right thing ending her relationship with the OM. She perhaps misses him or, perhaps, what he represented to her (a 'new' life). Due to these feelings she therefore remains emotionally distant (at times) with me.
2. She is unsure about committing fully to the marriage in the sense that we live together as one family again. This might be down to feelings of freedom and independance she has gained and isn't in a hurry to lose. In other words.. she feels that once I move back in that is the possibility of a new life GONE for good (and that could mean something as simple as she is scared things will just go back to the way things were before she walked away)
Either way... I am somewhat confused as to what the best tactics are to take with her now. The progress we have made is truly staggering considering where this marriage was only weeks ago... but I am starting to feel that I am making ALL the effort and I need to know, one way or another, if she is really SERIOUS about starting a new and happier life together.
If I was to want to take a firmer approach how would I go about doing this? Or is that not a good idea at all?
This DB'ing is tough as hell and unforgiving to boot.
