I am looking for my patience, has anyone seen it???
Im so fed up with my H!
UGH!
Need to vent!!!
He once again asked me not to text him when with the OW....I guess maybe I did last night and didnt know he was with her. It wasnt that important, but it was something on my mind and I asked instead of waiting. Well, he asked me this again today. So I politely texted him back and said "How about you not text me anymore".
He didnt answer. Guess that fixed that problem.
Jerk!
Need more patience!!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Then why doesn't he just turn the phone OFF??? And how would you know when she is with him????
He can turn it back on whenever he feels like it.
Sounds so easy but it is not for them.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Your H thrives on drama. He wants you to blow a gasket because it will show you still care about him. He wants you to go off the handle and scream and shout.
He's like a little kid trying to get attention in any way he can even if it's bad attention.
Don't take his bait.
BFM
There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you. David Burns, Intimate Connections
How about you don't text him, period? How the %&# are you supposed to know when he's with ow? If you need to tell him something important, email him or call him and leave him a message. You willfeel so much better when you stay away from him and his drama.
Thanks guys...I agree. I think he should turn off his phone if he doesnt want to be interupted by "me". I sware if it were someone else it wouldnt matter. He is trying to "win" her back so any contact from me makes her wonder. I did text him last night and asked him not to text me anymore.
But, he did. This morning I got a "good morning". I didnt answer. Then he called the kids. I spoke with him briefly because he asked to. But I kept it short and to the point about the kids only. He asked if I had gotten his text. I said no because at that point I hadnt checked my phone. H texted again and forwarded me the text I sent him and said he hoped I didnt mean it. Then, oh then he pulled what he always pulls....trying to manipulate me into talking to him! UGH! I knew it too. He texted and wanted to know why I was avoiding him, then texted to ask me to answer phone he had some ?s to ask me! That gets me everytime. He knows It. So, I just said "whats your ?". He wanted to know if I had gotten a call from the credit union about something and if I needed help getting the yard ready for the hurricane tomorrow....I just said I needed help flipping the trampoline and thats all.
My daughter had her first therapy today. Very interesting. The doc is going to try hypnotism. Sounds very interesting to me. Of course she is afraid so the doc said he would do me first just to show her its harmless....great! She probably have me bark like a dog or something...her face lit up!
My H texted me to see if we were done and I said yes so he called me and I told him what the doc said. Then he made the comment that he wanted to call me and ask about it since I werent talking to him this morning.
He is so afraid to lose me as a friend (by his terms), that he sorta panics if I get mad and dont talk to him.
This is hard with kids and its hard not to text sometimes because there are things that need to be said. I think from now on I will call him when I have a ? and like you said, he dont have to answer, I will just leave a message if its important.
YOu know BFM, he knows I care about him. I have a hard time pretending that I dont sometimes.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I have a hard time NC as well Kissak! I think H needs/would want to know about D and stuff, so I tm or call him. Hurts me more though since he hardly replies.
Sounds like the issue with the phone is more about ow and her demands if there is other woman and not so much about him.
Sounds like pressure to me but not by you.
Only contact him if there is an issue with the kids and let him be.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
My H was pretty much the same. More than happy to chit chat when not with OW; but when she was around he was very abrupt and darn right rude.
It is just so two faced.
I would not tolerate him talking to me one way when around her and another when he wasn’t so now I no longer accept phone calls or texts from him, nor do I send any.
We communicate fine enough through e-mail. (Even they are few and far between)
If he misses out on important information about our son that’s his problem.
Nutty
Be The Greener Grass.
Me 40 H 42 Son 11 Married 15 years. Left May 2006 after gambling spree I had EA August 2006 OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!) I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.
oh, I do believe it is pressure from the OW...Im sure she rolls her eyes if I text him about anything. She once told him that she thought I found stuff to text him about. Not true. If it comes to mind that I want to tell or ask something, I usually do. He even said himself that he didnt mind at all if I texted him....just to not do it around her.
I think it hit a nerve with him today.
I havent texted him today except to answer a few questions.
3 times already he has texted "u not talking to me now"
Each time I was short.....I said busy, eating lunch, and cleaning up. He has even called me 3 times as well. I tried not to get to talkative with him. I really dont know why he called me, I think he just hates it if I have control.
He did just call this last time and boy was he down....he called to tell me that the bank had called him about the payoff on my truck and also that he was late on his cc payment....I told him I would call and pay it off today...and it was over $100 less that what he had told me!! I had to let him know! He isnt very happy about it...well he is for me, but not for him!
I still wonder if he has found the happiness he was looking for?? It has been one thing after the other for him since all this began....he has lost his family, house, girlfriend (more than once), roommate, he is in debt up to his eyeballs, no money, lost his good name, his respect, had to quit the EMS position he loved soo much, and is in therapy and on meds.
ME? Im good, no boyfriend/no problems, car paid for, childsupport, kids, home, job, family and I still have my respect and good name. And sooo much more. Closer to God.
I guess it is all part of the journey.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
How dare the adultress have any say at all in you texting your husband. How can she demand any type of loyalty or have a comment on anything?
I would keep right on texting whenever I felt the need to. Not over excessively or anything but shoot why should you bend to them? They disrupted your life with their mess and I just dont see why you texting your husband the father of your children is a "bother".
She has nothing to do with your children therefore she should have no influence in how you interact with their father.
