We all are here to accept personal responsibilty for our role(s) in our relationship problems, self examine and do the best we can to FIND SOLUTIONS and LOOK FOR THE POSITIVE in our partners, selves and others.
Most of us are trying to do the best we can to improve our relationships and none of us is perfect (my self at the first of the line).
Perhaps you need to look carefully in the mirror to examine the plank in your eye before going after the speck in your wife's eye. My own plank tends to cloud my vision.
Peace. Please go talk to your parish priest. You need serious help.