You got that right! LOL! I read some SERIOUS DRAMA on a different thread yesterday and today, and thought, "Damn! And I thought I was the only one here who had it real bad! Yikes!"
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Shes a pretty sharp cookie. It wouldn't surprise me if she already knew, but she is just in total denial and is having a REALLY hard time opening up about her feelings and everything. I think we should just bite the bullet and tell her, but maybe I'm the chicken, since its really not my responsibility to drop it on her, its his. I'm sure he'd be relieved, but in the end its on him. I'll tell her if I have to, but I think he needs to face this one himself.
Of course this is on him. This mess is completely his doing, and the "right" thing would be for him to sit down with D and own up to his responsibility.
But do you honestly think that's going to happen? More importantly, do you think he's going to tell her the whole truth? She doesn't need to know every little detail, but she should be given the truth. Not half-truths, as I suspect your H will weasel out. I understand you don't necessarily want to be the bad guy....but the "bad guy" in your sitch isn't going to be forthright, IMO. He's going to sugarcoat the reality as much as he can.
It's totally all your decision, but I have to agree with Michelle here. I understand wanting to protect your child....we all do....but I do wonder how waiting on something such as a life-altering event as this protects her. It would be GREAT IF this wasn't his child......
But what if IT IS?!
It's hard to imagine what that could be like for a 7-yo....To all of a sudden find out that your daddy had a baby with another woman (a Troll, in this case) who is not your mommy....and you never had any clue. You thought only Mommies and Daddies, H's and W's, had babies together. Talk about being blindsided!
I'm sorry, but I disagree with the C on this one. I just don't think waiting is the best move here. From my own personal experience, it was so much better for me to talk to my boys about all that was going on. I did not want to keep them in the dark...and often to my surprise, they already KNEW a lot....Because they listen. And they witness. Whenever we as adults think our children are off doing other things and not listening to or bearing witness to our interactions, they ARE. It really is like in the movies.....where Mom/Dad is on the phone in the other room or Mom and Dad are arguing downstairs, and the kids are watching from the top of the stairs or they are lying awake in bed listening. Not pretty, but it's reality.
Anyway, this is all JMO, Corey, and I know you will make what you believe is the best decision for your little girl.
(((((Corey)))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
I read some SERIOUS DRAMA on a different thread yesterday and today, and thought, "Damn! And I thought I was the only one here who had it real bad! Yikes!" 
