I agree with you that adultery and divorce are awful, because they are inherently wrong. In most cases, the results are disastrous. However, I don't think it's the negative results that make it a bad choice, it's the moral case that make it wrong. Remember in DB they never say adultery is wrong, they just tell you to make yourself the better option.
However, in a small number of cases the WAS and the OP walk off into the sunset and the LBS can't seem to make themselves appear to be the "better" or "more attractive" option.
******** The article I was referring to takes into account that sometimes, sin and the wrong choices, seem to bring us greater joy than obedience and faithfulness.
--Theoden
Well, I wonder how many of those marriages under those circumstances with one or both cheating on their spouses would have greater joy in their next R long-term? I think when the initial chemicals and glow wear off, you still would have an R with its shares of joys and pain and boredom.
I also think it's more than just one bad moral choice or whatever. I think people that would consider leaving a married partner for what they perceive as a better option have more wrong with them than just making one bad moral choice. I've just seen so many accounts of dysfunctional OP's and WAS here on the boards; I think it is more than just that.
