Is it just sex....or more?????

[NikB]

So then he leaves......sigh....I know the R talk was a bad idea...but I'm so driven to get answers and then of course I don't like them.

Actually I was going to say that the first part of it I thought was pretty good. I think you did a pretty good job sharing your feelings and validating his. I would've stopped when he said "I need to go" and simply said bye to him... but I think the first part was good

You're not going to get the answers you want.

The more you ask, the more you're going to 1. cement the decision in his mind, and 2. push him to say/do more things to make you "believe" him. The asking isn't just hurting you NOW.. it's hurting your chances at reconciling. Hopefully knowing that will help motivate you to stop.

I think the only way I can say I've improved is that I don't cry in front of him anymore. Is that progress???

Yes, that is great!!

is this one of those cases when I should believe what he does not what he says? I ask because he went from telling me he doesn't see himself coming back to kissing me and talking about sex without skipping a beat.

Yep... actually you should do that in almost all cases!! Validate what he says, but believe what he does.

I agree with Hopeful - I think he wants to ML but doesn't want you pushing for it. Back off, and see what happens.

((CW))