Now, I'll give you a typical response of what she would say. I shouldn't have to tell you what I want from this board. So frank for the sake of quoting me its not good enough. Never good enough. Even when she would finally beat me down in defeat. I still lost and lost hard.
why are you fighting so hard for someone who treated you so badly
Because we are one flesh, one heart, one soul, and one mind. That is what marriage is. But we are not one mind because she doesn't want to be one mind. She never wanted to be one mind. She just wanted to be quarrelsome and vexatious. Now she has seperated from me and doesn't want to be one flesh, one heart, or one soul.
Phil...you are seperate from her the pressure of being one with someone is tremendous
Marriage is not becoming one with someone it is joining WITH someone
two complete people coming together to add to each other's lives
I know that feeling...like a part of you has been ripped away and there is a gaping open wound where soemthing used to be
the feeling that you are incomplete
We NEED to be a complete person on our own. Honestly...how can we add to someone's life if we are incomplete? If we look to them to make us complete then we are taking constantly and it tips the balance of our relationship.
Does that make sense?
You need to feel complete on your own your wife needs to be complete on her own
then there can be give and take instead of constant giving or taking
Your soul is yours Phil she can only kill it if you let her
No one can kill your soul without you giving them permission
be whole unto yourself Phil your soul belongs to you and God
"Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails." 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
I re-read it frequently along with many other verses. I hope it helps.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
Yes it is Fig, and I stop reading the rest of your post. Because you are wrong. Marriage is by God. What God has done can not be seperated. When you are married in the Catholic Church you become one flesh.
Case closed... Now please go away and leave me alone.
You know how too many responses from people on this board makes you crazy and you feel like your getting 2 x 4'ed?
Do you think your wife might just feel the same way when you blow up her phone with all the texting?
I mean.....whether the texts are wrong/right/loving/bashing....do you think she might contrue them as harrasing and it overwhelms her and makes her more crazy?
Kinda like you think some people on this forum are just out to harras you?
From some of the responses on this board....you say you hate it and want to leave, wished you'd never came here.
Do you get where I'm going with this?
The constant badgering.......do this, do that, why this, why that, will eventually kill something that can be saved.
It's just a thot Phil...
Hugs,
Jeanette
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
