Problem is in my H's case, he believes that nearly everything about his depression stems from the relationship, not just from me but from the way that he was in the relationship, i.e. passive and never doing what he wanted to do. I think he is happy with who I am as a person (beyond the relationship problems), but says he doesn't know who he is around me. He gets himself lost...it's scary as it would almost be better if he disliked me than disliked himself around me. He sees the changes I've made, and now it's about him.
He's been so honest about all of this, maybe more honest than I would like. However I am thinking there might be MLC stuff there too that he just doesn't realize yet.
Anyway I'm so happy about you and your H. Each one of your posts just gets better and better.
I bet you'll be moving on to the piecing board soon!
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Last edited by istherehope; 09/04/0805:46 PM.
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
