Everytime I Start to Believe....

[Sugar and Spice]

Then if the baby does turn out to be his, tell her. If not, then its not something she needs to know.

I'm not sure waiting to tell her is going to lessen the shock, just MHO, I'm sure you've talked about it with her C.

Nope, nothing is going to take the sting out of that one. Since the arrival is impending, the C and I have had several discussions about it.

Also, not sure why it wouldn't be something to tell her even if it's not his. I understand wanting to protect her, but kids are pretty intuitive and I'm sure she knows things are going on regardless of what she's been told. I think she'll hear things and figure it all out at some point regardless of whether the baby is his or not.

I'm sure if its not his that it will be discussed later on, just not right now. It was her C's advice that since its not a sureity that its Hs baby that telling her and having it turn out not to be, would be more detrimental than easing her into knowing there is someone else and then the baby. Shes going to find out, the only thing that we (the C, me and even DAFT) agree on, it that we need to control how she is told, so its inevitable that it will happen. H is a puss and doesn't want to tell her anything (the secrecy thing) but he knows she has to be told. I KNOW she knows about the Troll, she just is not ready to accept it yet. So sad. The things that these idiots do to their kids.