Wow! I'm still thinking that this may be a positive...no more eggshells this week for any of you...and a chance to get on with one of the things you do best...writing the letters and winning his heart through those!
I definitely think he got your point about the kids getting shortchanged, and I'm certain he's regretting at least some of his week last week (maybe all of it). I think that will bode well for your cause! Continue to be as upbeat and supportive as you can. I agree that it's okay to act disappointed...what wife wouldn't be. But, make sure you leave him with a smile on your face.
As for the nightie, I think there's still time...just after the kids go to bed. I don't know about anyone else, but I think he's not tried because of the guilt he feels and the possibility that you might just be soooo disgusted with him that you wouldn't be receptive.
My friend told me just this morning, that people expect others to act a certain way based on their own limitations. For example, she believes that my H won't even try to come back until I convince him (through actions mind you) that I could forgive him. In his (limited) view of the world, he's committed the unforgivable sin, and he can't imagine that I could ever get over it. He can't understand that I'm not the same person he is, and that God will help me "get over it."
There's some truth in those words. I think you should at least open the door for your H on the physical side...that way he'll know you are open to it, and that will give him more to think about while he's away. If he doesn't bite, that's okay...it's not about you, it's about him! But, remember, they don't necessarily take hints sooo good...you might have to be quite forward!
Keep on keeping on...it's what you do best and what inspires the rest of us!!!
Amy
p.s. By the way, M, I'm a War Eagle all the way!!! In fact, my mom and dad still live in Auburn! Sorry!!!
Amy, my little sister (and I like you better than the biological one!)
I am going with the plan--woest he can do is say no and get on the boat, right--well heck he was getting on the boat anyway! The door will be open for him to step through.
The letter is not done, so will be the first thing he gets in the mail--along with a care package of his favorite treats. If I am really lucky, the ship will pull back in and I wil lbe able to hand him that stuff before he leaves.
SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
