Advice-Husband moved in with OW(I'm a Newby)

[marisol35]

I would say make it 6 months since he moved in with OW... give it time for H to see what its like living with OW and make him start comparing the life he had and this new life. They will slowly start to see the differences and regret their decision because they will start questioning whether it was worth it and seeing how good they had it to what they have now.

I am going to do the same and wait until February when the lease is up where I am living now.

Detachment starts when you start to GAL and do things for yourself. Spend as much time as you can with your kids, do fun things, go places you have never been before even if it is a new restaurant. Take a class, start exercising, listen to audio tapes on self-help, read books, go to the library, go on picnics, whatever it takes to occupy your mind on something else. The hardest time is at night of course when its time for bed and you are alone. That is when I write in my journal all of my thoughts about what I want, where do I want to be, what kind of relationship do I want, telling yourself that you are loved, adored, smart, beautiful, powerful, strong, and that you will survive.

My D16 is my savior. She loves me unconditionally and will never stop loving me or abandon me or make me feel the way my H has made me feel about myself. Your children love you too. Show them and tell them you love them as much as possible. They will be the ones who carry you through this the most.

We are all here for you!