No Frank, she has always been quarrelsome and vexatious. Always... WAW has nothing to do with it. In fact when she dropped the bomb in a weird way life did get better in some aspects. She stopped being quarrelsome. Because she stopped talking to me totally. She just could not wait to leave. Now that she has left, she still doesn't talk to me. When she does she does become quarrelsome. We are in just a different cycle.
It's my belief that she could have stayed in this cycle without leaving. I might have been able to keep her home, but no, I had to enable her. I had to let her do it. I had to give her five thousand dollars and say go. Here you go stay at home mom, get a job, and her is a 5K to help. Good bye...
Then when she was still at home and I was trying to hold on, I just pushed her further away. Now I'm pushing her further away. Because that is what she wants.
She needs to step towards me, but she doesn't want to yet.
If in fact she does want to reconcile, will I be able to heal. Will she act the same way she did for 13 years, still expecting the same results.
She has the answers, I do not.
What do I want from this board.
LostPhil is doing the best he can for his family regarding his crazy wife. She is the crazy one, and LostPhil is normal.
