I can totally relate! I too feel like that. I know that I probably won't be waiting several years. My goal is to at least make it to 6 months which is Oct. as i found out on April 23. I struggle at the fact husband gets to go live this life move in with her and then if it doesn't work I feel like a back-up plan. I'm not a back up plan. I get frustrated with the fact at times that I would even consider reconciliation, especially since he moved in with her. My kids are feeling the same as your. I wish I could detach my brain and stop thinking. I've of detachment but don't know how to get there. Does anyone know how to get to a place of detachment?


Me-38 H-38
Married 18years
Daughter-17 & Son-9
Discovery of EA/PA 4/23/08
Left home 5/08/08
Moved in with OW 08/01/08

The only rock I know that stays steady, the only institution I know that works is the family.
-- Lee Iacocca