Frank... I propose you don't let her stop by all the time
i think she likes coming over because she gets to still see what is happening...she gets to pretend she is still a good mom and you still love her unconditionally.
she doesn't have to take ownership in any of her actions
and
she is seeing, by your actions, that she is still a great person. I mean...you make her coffee, you let her come over whenever she calls, you adjust your life to fit her schedule almost.
Frank...you seem to me to be such a wonderful person, so caring and kind and I wonder if you let all your friends treat you the way she treated you?
If yoru friend treated you like crap like she has done, repeatedly, would you still be so kind to them or would you be more guarded?
I used to let my friends walk all over me. And then, inside, I would feel rotten about myself and wonder why they treated me like that.
People treat us how we allow them too. When I finally learned that lesson and learned to set up boundaries, amazingly enough, I was treated differently. I lost some people I thought were friends. I gained some people who treat me better than I knew to expect.
