Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
M41 H42 D17 Adopted N14 M22 T24 "Bomb" 4/07 Sep 8/07 Admitted OW 11/07(only to me) OW back 12/4/07 PA on off thru 7/08 says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08 D final 7/09 Moving on and up!!
Thanks everyone for all the support.....whenever I feel alone I come here....this board has saved my life.....I am feeling a little anxious today but it will be okay....one day at a time....
H called this morning to tell me he will be picking son up for practice tonight....no mention of how it went yesterday...didnt really expect him to.....but how does he act as though nothing is going on? It really blows my mind.....
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
They are good at hiding their true emotions. Let it go. This is his ordeal and his cross to bear. You just act "as if" and concern yourself with the day to day activities of your life--you and the kids.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
It's so hard....as you know....but i'm really trying to move forward and just take care of me and my kids.....that's all I can do...
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
Treese, You are doing a great job of taking care of your children and yourself. It's very hard not to focus on what this week has brought into focus. How long will it be before he knows the results?
I'm keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. The waiting is the hardest when it comes to trying to find out the results on anything, but something like this feels like it takes foreover.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Snodderly.....the results will take weeks so I must file before they come back...so that it doesn't become a joint debt but money always gets in the way....geez....if we live paycheck to paycheck now what is going to happen when she gets money for his other child....I feel so helpless right now.....it's eating me up truthfully....no matter how I try to get it out of my mind and do other things when I'm alone it all comes rushing back.....terrible...and filing seems so final....but I understand I have to protect my kids.....they deserve to live the life they've lived all these years....it's not their fault....they didn't ask for this and shouldn't have to pay the price.....
Will I ever be whole again? Right now I feel broken in so many ways.....
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
