Not sure what to say on that one. The experienced vets will be able to offer saner advice. I would say to remember the "don't believe anything they say" phrase. Mood swings are to be expected. Jekyll and Hyde is to be expected. the massage - hmmm not sure, but maybe not the way to go...
My 2 cents worth - your letter was a jolt of reality. Let him stew on it and come to you if that is what will happen. Don't be too eager at all... as he comes toward you, pull back a little. Stay in control of what is happening as best you can.
Well done (IMO) on the comment re telling the kids - shows you are staying in control. Keep that up.
I am not the best one to be giving advice as I have trouble following some times...
LIS
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No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
