My H is also with a 21 yr old b*%ch.... She did the same thing as you described...pursued him, texting him, sending pics of herself to him, but she works at the same company he does. He moved out Aug 21st and I believe she is living their with him and his son.
If I had the chance to go back I would have confronted her and told her to stop or else. I would have told him end it or its over for us. I just held it in and didn't say anything when he would leave knowing he was going out to be with her. I would have stood up for myself but I was so hurt and so devistated that I didn't know what to do or say. I would have gotten angry instead of weeping, crying, begging.....
Now, I don't know what to do. He is out of the house, there is little to no contact, and all I can do is try to work on myself. I am still in limbo as to if I want to save my M or just be done. I love him so much but he has hurt me too many times already. I don't know if I can take much more.
I'm a newbie so I am at the beginning stages of this like yourself. I would be interested in hearing from those who have saved their M and what would they do in your sitch or my sitch...
Me35/H35 D16/SS14 M-1yr/known H 18yrs 1st Bomb: 4/26 OW35 2nd Bomb: 8/17 OW21 Moved out 8/21/08 H filed D on 9/9/08
God determines who walks into your life...it's up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.
