Just some advice and thoughts needed.... After my trip I decided I needed to be stronger and not live in limbo land.
I wrote my husband an email and sent it to his work... no blaming on my part for his mistakes... I can only take responsibility for my part in the break down of our marriage.
I let him know i was sorry we are going down this road... and I will always love him..but:
if we are truely done...he needs to 1. move all his stuff out- i cant look at it daily 2. plan a budget..the money does run out 3. make a plan for the kids 4. he needs to tkae the kids to his house on his time it is too hard for me to come home and him have been in my home all weekend..i need my space to move on
he did send me a text saying he got the email ..he would call me on his way home... he has a fantasy football draft and hoped to see the kids if it wasnt too late
Well i never head from him..I was sick and crying for like 4 hours i was so scared because this is a step to end...
He called after 9 to talk to kids and my D10 came upstairs and said Daddy is on his way over.
He showed up..could barely walk and stand up straight..he threw out his back golfing while we were on vacation( karma)
he visited with the kids and then came upstairs and looked at all my vacation pictures.
I asked him if he wanted me to massage his back to loosen it up..he said no then laid on the floor.
I massaged it and tried to loosen it up for like 15 minutes..I got up and said well hope that helps.
I sat on the couch and he was behind me..he said I will be back tomorrow ok..i was kinda confused..this is a man that said FU just a few days earlier...
I didnt answer..he kinda ruffled with my hair and said is that ok with you?
I told him I will never stop you from seeing your children.
He wasnt even out of the driveway and sent me a thanks..it feels looser already...
We texted about misc stuff all day yesterday.... like old times...
Then last night at 9 my D10 came in and said dad is not coming..its too late..
Man..I was pissed because my son 2 was asking for daddy and i had told him daddy was coming.
i sent him a text saying thanks for telling me.... S2 was asking and I told him Daddy was coming..I wont tell the kids anymore.
I went to bed...
This morning I get Sorry Babe...I should have called you and told you I was not coming..it just got too late..I told D10
well i didnt hear that come in... so when i heard my phone i had received a second one saying Geez..i said sorry...
ok... am i crazy..why is he being nice... my letter..saying I need to move foreward..or is he being nice and underhandingly plotting?
He never calls me babe anymore...that was our pet name for each other...
