The LRT contains a lot of not spending quality time with my W, where emotional distance and lonliness is one of her chief issues with me in the past. However I do not want her to feel crowded or pressurd and I think that just being around me gives her that feeling.
HFGW,
Thank you. I am always interested in hearing the H's perspective. Men are such different creatures than women. I understand that his experience as a WAH is potentially different than my experience as a WAW. Do you think his pride has a lot to do with it?
In regards to the LRT if it was one of your wife's chief complaints that you two didn't spend quality time together then your 180 would be to spend time with her. What can you do to take the pressure off? It is my guess that she is not comfortable in a romantic relationship. You must first eliminate the negative feelings then build a friendship. The romance and recommitment comes later. Show her that you get it. Make the time you spend together about rebuilding a friendship not a romance. DO NOT go on dates. Participate in and invite her to fun activities that involve groups. Just my opinion of course.
All the best
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