I finally figured me out. Maybe or not

[JWS]

Dan,

I hope that you can take this for how it is intended, I wrote a more PC version but my computer crashed as I was posting it, now i am short on time and you get the "wall to wall counseling" version, but its out of love my friend

in 5 years you may or may not be married, that woman may or may not be your current W, but you will still be you. Everyone changes but the person you are at your core is made up of cretin values and choices. this can be summed up as Honor, and it is the most valuable trait a man can have.

I don't really give a damn about OM1 or 2 I care about you. your actions are the only one that can be controlled here and this kind of snooping needs to stop, and NOW bro. just think of all the time you wasted going through that van, when you could have been hanging with friends and doing something fun.

I do understand the need to know, but all it is doing is killing you. decide right now Does her cheating change the end goal for you. If YES then get out your pen write up a D and move on because if she has not yet your pushing her there. (what if she caught you at her van). if NO, then put it all out of your mind and ignore it because believe me worrying won't stop it.

On to gals in a bar, thats great and I know that having ladies be nice to you is amazing, but again you are your own man and you live with the choices you make. think about the kind of man you are and want to be. "well my wife screwed around so now its my turn" if you waited for your W to be your first partner do you really want some gal in a bar to be your second. Trust me man I know a lot of manwhores and they are no happier. when you are ready to find someone else and start dating, don't sell your self short and jump on the first pretty gal that says yes just to get laid, it won't help.

Dude I totally understand if I need to drive to CO to burry 1 or 2 bodies because we all have our breaking point, but I am not worried about driving there to kick your own ass for your own good. Man, I am not trying to start any online fights here but I call them as i see them and I think you want better for yourself then this recent behavior, and i'll help you get there even if it means being a prick.