2 steps forward, 3 back

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I just signed a paper saying I rec'd the D paperwork. DId talk to a lawyer, she said it meant nothing.

He is getting 1/2 my 401/403 B money. (he hates when I say my)
He is also getting 1/2 the house - says he will wait on some of the money for a future date so I can stay here, unless I drag it out for the full 2 yrs then all bets are off. And 50% custody, so no child support or alimony for me.

So basically I am going to try to pay him the 401 money plus around 10,000 if I can and then re-finance the rest through a new mortgage no later than 10 or so years from now when our current mort is more paid off.

I have been pretty good the past week. He has talked to me regarding the kids and school, etc. I picked them up on Tues from his house and saw GF's car and didn't freak out. Telling myself now I can outlive her, she is a transition person. It works for me for now to handle things. Staying positive when talking to him. Any other tips?