Pisces--thanks for your post. I am definitely "backed off" now, so let's hope it draws him back to me after all...
Jody told me to try 3 things with H. The first was to send him an email saying that I want to spread out the joint sessions (I did this Sunday, no reply still). The 2nd was to book my own trip to Dublin, let him know the dates, but not ask him to do anything. I have booked the trip, and will send him my dates today or tomorrow depending on when and if he reaches out first (I don't like to send emails when he doesn't contact me first). Finally, she said not to bring up anything in relation to the marriage or relationship with him, and only to show admiration for his own process and progress, to try and show that I am also learning from his example. Since we haven't had any real conversations since last week, I've been unable to do the 3rd in terms of showing admiration, but I have carefully avoided any future talk or "we" talk on our IMs and in our emails.
And I know I shouldn't be upset, but H didn't call last night, and it was his idea to have a schedule, and his idea to call me last night. So it's not so much not hearing from him as the fact that he didn't follow through on his commitment that bothers me. I know he needs to feel like he is in control, but him choosing the day had put him in control.
So, I am going to try and get on with the day and not fret too much. Today is his birthday, and I can't help but feel a little melancholy. I wish I could be celebrating it with him.
Anyway, I am going to stay positive today. I have quite a bit of work to do, and I will focus on this. If he reaches out he reaches out, but I am not going to expect a "magic" event.
Positive attitude...I can get through today.
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
