I agree with Jen about the anniversary thing. If he told he wasn't going to acknowledge it and then you do I think he would feel pressured.
Hang in their girlfriend....I here ya on the "how long can I do this" thing. I think I've decided I'll do it until either he changes his mind about things or I don't care anymore...whichever comes first. I know it's hard for us DB'ers to imagine it, but it is possible we'll end up being the ones to move on with our lives. I can tell you one thing....I have learned a lot because of all of this and I truly hope I get to show my H what a wonderful W I can be and how great our R can be, but if that is not in the cards for us then I know I'm better for having had this experience and I WILL make someone happy some day. Again...I hope that someone is H.....
