Second, wouldn't it make more sense to change it to "it's complicated" or "separated" or even "divorced"?
Third, don't bother trying to hide it. She'll figure it out. And she'll feel how she'll feel. IMHO, tell her yourself. Don't let her find out from the internet or a friend, that'll only make it worse.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2