Donna, I know what you mean about needing a day or two to shake things off. I am still waiting for some property to sell--then there will be no more financial ties or any reason at all to communicate (no kids, just furkids--which I got :)). We rarely communicate (of course via email) unless there is some decision needing to be made related to the property. I remember earlier on, however, that any email I would get from him would send me into a tailspin for days. I remember sobbing with the Verizon guy just trying to get my cell phone coverage changed...same with my car insurance. I couldn't function--and it affected every aspect of my being. I ended up dropping 65 pounds in 3 months and spent a day in the ER for dehydration because I let it get to me on so many levels. Not something I'm particularly proud of, but at the time, I just couldn't deal with all the rugs that had been pulled out from under me at once. This person that I loved and trusted more than anyone in the world--I don't know how to trust anyone more than I did him-had betrayed me on so many levels. But, what you and oldtimer said is true--it was his decision, his perception and in his world, that is THE only thing that matters. It's just hard to remember that when your heart is involved--and you're right, even though there are some valuable life lessions in all of this, it still sucks!
