Tal, my vote is to make it unanimous for sex. (May of 2007 for me, Doc.) All the experts agree that intimacy between the parents is crucial for the family -- it's in the best interests of your children.
The confusion and exasperation you expressed at you H's desire to address the need for sex with you as a chief priority has reminded me of some books I read last year. If you don't mind a suggestion, the book, "For Men Only" by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn might be a good read for your H, while you might be interested in it's counterpart "For Women Only" by Shaunti Feldhahn. These books reflect the subtle psychological differences between the genders that may not be quite so obvious. These really solidified for me why husbands and wives can get so frustrated with each other's behaviors. It's stuff people have always observed but never understood, all put together in a consistent explanation.
