It Hurts Bad!!

[twinhope]

Need advise! My sitch is as follows: M-30, H-30, TwinD-2, M-6, T-14. Problems started in 12/07 H had an EA over the phone. H was unhappy about a number of things. His feelings were changing over night and the blame game started. Everything was my fault and issues are a moving target.

He left the house in May and has been gone ever since. I found out shortly after he left of a new EA possible PA. I now believe it is a full blown PA with a 21yr old from his work. I have not confronted this situation and I am acting "as if". This is the hardest thing ever to do.

I have been DBing my butt off! I saw some baby steps about 4 wks ago. He came over to visit 1st time in 3 months and he said he missed me, cares about me alot, afraid our friends are ruining the chances of him doing a 180. Now he is back to his new self of not wanting anything to do with me. He doesn't help with the house or dogs. He acts like this house really does not exist. He has visitation with the girls but I have reached out to him on a number of occasions for extra time and he always has plans. It is funny that he complains to me how much he misses them but when given the opportunity he stays to play with friends. It is soooo frustrating.

Does anyone have any suggestions for me. He has not asked for a D. Doesn't talk about it really. He keeps saying that the law gives us a year so we don't make any bad decisions. I think he is getting fed by his new gf he has told me nothing of her. I believe she is "in love" with him. This is so hard I just want to beat both of them silly!