I know what you mean. At first I felt the same way about my H's family. Why don't they call me or my son? Then I decided to call them. I realized most of my H's family just felt weird about the whole thing. They didn't mean to reject me, they just weren't sure how I would feel about talking to them. I decided that although I may not have a connection with some of my H's family much anymore they are still my son's family. As his Mom I wanted to make sure that door is still open for him. By calling them and accepting them as my son's family, things were easier. I also made a point of not talking about my marriage. They are still family through our children. Plus they are my friends.
My H's sister was the one person that went out of her way to call me a lot. But then we always got along well as friends.
Other friends..same story. Some are closer to me, some to my H, some like both, and some I just don't trust. All in all I decided it was up to me to decide who I want to remain friends with and be a friend to as a result. Some said no thanks just by never getting back to me. Oh well...
So I would say hang onto that grandma... and bring the kids. You can befriend anyone you please. You want to pay her internet bill, why not? You don't have to be married to her granddaughter to be nice to her.
