Such good advice. I used to do that. I would bite my tongue until it almost bled, but it was what was best all around. They just don't get it anyway. Besides that, I knew that when I would call my ex on things in his tiny tiny head he would justify what he was doing by making me the one with the problem.
Keep doing whatever is best for you and your girls, and what's easiest for you to live with!
We had a great weekend, the ladies and me. H worked. Boy I love my kids, and they really keep my spirits up. I let them both have a little friend spend the night Friday and then we hit a parade on Saturday morning (me and 6 girls!). It was so much fun. P played the rest of the day together, and then I went out with my friend and had a blast!
Work today (boo hiss). The girls are at mil's, they will have a blast, then I think I'll treat them to dinner on the way home.
Funny story: Last week H called to let me know he, his brother and the girls were out to dinner. I hung up the phone, feeling weird. My first thought was I was upset to be 'left out' of something with his family. Then I realized that I was hungry, and I was just jealous they were eating at one of my favorite places! lmfao Not that I don't miss H's family though, because I do, but it was just funny to me.
Funny how perceptions change. When he recently took my daughter out for dinner I felt at ease for the first time. I didn't feel left out. It was his time, as much or as little as he wanted to spend. I let go of the rope, which was in my mind, judging about what he should do as a dad. He does what he does. I do what I do. We were always different as parents but a good team. Now we co-coach in our own ways, though I don't feel the need to call and let him know what's going on. Each time I have I get slammed (or feel I do) so that's gone by the wayside.
You are a stitch, ms. l... good for you! I think you owe yourself some takeout from there!
