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Nic,
Yes I did have a nice day despite the party. I went to my friends for dinner and got to meet her new BF. He seems nice but i had to stifle a laugh b/c he is the spitting image of her ex H. In this case the ex H is desperate to get back with my friend (despite it being him who wanted the D) but she is having non of it right now. I think eventually they will get back together as even in the presence of this new man she talked about her ex H in almost every sentence!

BM

Your H should've thought to ask D13 bring a friend (and allowed it, once she asked), but there ya are ... he's not thinking about anyone else, but himself

I totally agree

ultimately, it's all about him

Again I agree.

Journalling:

Tonight D18 asked H if she could meet up with him. Initially he said no b/c he was taking S16 shopping for school stuff but after she pointed out that the shops shut at 8pm he agreed.

It seems I am totally a taboo subject. Whilst D18 was waiting for him to come and pick her up (his idea) D13 got a call to say just to let you know I'm not ignoring you I just don't want to come into the house so will you please tell you sister to meet me outside! Well, that's absolutely fine by me as I have nothing to say to him right now anyway.

D18 wanted to discuss with him his contribution to her university education. You may recall that he refused to discuss it with me. Anyway he told her to do her 'sums' and then let him have 'the figures' so that he could make an 'assessment'(by the way he isn't an accountant). She pointed out to him that as she hasn't started yet she has no idea of how much it is going to cost her a month. He just said 'Mmmm' and shrugged his shoulders. To break the ice she has started with inviting him to join her on her first day at uni. His reply was 'Why? Is your mother not coming?' She told him yes I was but it would be nice to have us both there. His reply: 'I will come and visit you when you have settled in!' Whilst they were discussing finances he dropped into the convo that he has (or will need to) take out a second mortgage in order to build the room that he has promised S16 so that he doesn't have to sleep in a conservatory behind a curtain. How the hell he is going to pay it I've no idea. D18 alluded to the money that H will now get from the state for S16 instead of me and H told her that is going into S16s bank account for when he goes to uni. She pointed out that she had never had that (as I needed the money to feed and clothe her). I wonder how long it will be before he announces his next big holiday D18 entered into these convos knowing that he would either say no or try to wriggle out of his responsibilites and H did not disappoint her. How very sad.