Advice-Husband moved in with OW(I'm a Newby)

[marisol35]

T2L,

Our story sounds almost identical except for my H has had two affairs in the past 5 months. He moved out Aug 21st and the OW is 21 who works at his company. I cannot confirm that she is living with him but she is there quite a bit so its pretty much the same thing.

We have only been married a year come Sept 8th but we have known each other since high school. We have a 16 yr old daughter together. He left us when she was 2, married another woman, had a son with her, then divorced her when he was like 4 yrs old. We had been living together for about 6 yrs before getting married last year. As soon as we got married he changed. It was almost like he felt trapped, he wanted privacy, he just became a different person.

I am just starting to GAL and find things to occupy my time but it is the most hardest part to do. You must keep on living. Don't stop everything you are doing for your H. I did and sometimes I think that played a part in what has happened. I put him above everything even my daughter and now I know that was not the right thing to do. He took advantage and knew that I would always be there no matter what.

I have read several posts and it is like they become aliens...doing things you would have never thought they would be capable of.

H has not even been gone for 2 weeks and yesterday he came to pickup his son (this is a long story) because he has not changed him schools just yet and he gets there at 8pm and has the audacity to bring the OW with him!!!!!!!! I did not see it until they drove off. I was fuming!!! I immediately called him (of course he didn't pick up the phone) left a very stern message and then sent him several strong text messages telling him to NEVER bring that b%tch to my house EVER again. What he did was disrespectful, insensitive, and just plain cruel knowing we are still married, my daughter is devistated by the whole thing, and for him to have no decensy or to be so thoughtless was unreal.

So yes! I understand you completely!!!!! It does feel hopeless and impossible but it is up to you in your mind and in your heart to make that decision if it is or is not. I have continuously asked myself every day would I take him back? Some days yes but yesterday I wanted nothing to do with him. It is a constant inner battle until you become clear on what you truly want in your life. Start asking yourself questions about you and what you want not what you would do if he did this or that.

I hope this helps you.....sorry for rambling but this is a great place to get support and vent when you need too!

Feel free to contact me anytime!