TAL, I think women are wired differently when it comes to emotions, okay there is no thinking, they are. They love their kids, but most just don't have the nurturing side that we moms do.
Okay, Doc, I knew I would catch it from you on this post, notice I said most. You and the other men on here are the few that do!
I could also turn that around that most moms are nurturers, but your first wife was not.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I know that the men on here are good. They wouldn't be here if they weren't. They are here to save their marriages and the innocent bystanders, the children.
Okay, let me stop before I dig my hole any deeper, but I am sorry to have come off as I was saying all men were like that.
By the way I don't think all moms are nurturers either. If they were they would put the children ahead of the OM or have an affair with our non-nurturing husbands!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
It's left over frustration from my Single father days. There were ALWAYS programs for single mothers but none for single fathers. I had two daughters. DO you realize the looks you get when a single man takes a little girl into the men's restroom? NOBODY thinks twice about a woman taking a little boy into the womens restroom. AND there were NO changing tables in a mens restroom..
No worries Yoyo, I really did know what ya meant..
And I really do wish I cared more for My Needs and My wants then others. I am learning, I am trying... I told Wife the other night that I have to think about my needs. I naturally would leave that last piece of pie for her. Now I give myself permission to take it. But I have to do this consciously.... understand? It's weird.... it makes me feel evil
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And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
My challenge I think is that I have too much on my plate. I have my kids, house and bills to take care of, on top OF the Business stuff. Im in everything, for us to say that I won't try and run the business, I already do. He performs the work, I do the estimating, the taxes, the calls to clients, The bidding and accounts rec. and payable. So short of him hiring someone for that, which we can't afford, I get caught in a vicious cycle.
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
He called and said he couldn't understand why I was upset and that S5 will have a great day at school (he did). and that was it. i told him that he just doesn't understand and trying to ram it down my throat ain't gonna change anything.
Told him I was busy and had to go, I didn't need the crap right then and I wasn't going to get into a pissing contest with him.
In the same breath, he wanted to know if my mother could watch the kids on Sunday so he could be alone with me?????? WTF???
He hasn't seen his kids in 3 1/2 wks, but having sex with me is more important. Explain this to me SOMEONE>>PLEASE??????
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Beware of black and white syndrome. He says the sky is blue, you say it's grey. He says it's hot. You say it's cold. Just because he says something doesn't mean you have to argue with it. You are both irritable. It has been a hard 3weeks. He's been injured, you're emotional. Yes, you do need time together for sex. You will feel better too. The kids can see him later.
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