But aren't you pretty happy with your life right now regardless? You said there's not really anyone you're interested in dating, etc. So, why push things (knowing that 99% it would lead to D)? Why not enjoy hanging with Julia, your other friends, work, going to Proms, and generally being a wonderful and sociable person?
3 months ago he was miserable. Now he's picking up the pieces of his life, and you honestly have no idea whether the purple thing is a happy part of it and what he'll decide. And frankly, expecting someone to make multiple big decisions about their life in 3 months is a bit unrealistic - he'll take time, feel it out.
You have built a fantastic friendship over the last 3 months, which is stage 2 (probably borderline 3 with all the hand holding and kissing!) of DBing! The last big R talk pushed things back (but how long were things building until then?) so he may be getting to an action point all on his own - and we know it's better if they're not pushed into anything.
You are not second best to anyone. And if he doesn't realize that, it is his loss!!!
(((Lisa)))
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
