Thanks to all of you for your positive words. I did the best I could at the time and I really don't regret it.
As far as she and I getting to be "friends", yeah...thats never going to happen.
It was just too weird and maybe I'll never really know why, but it also doesn't really matter why. If she meant it, even if only for a few minutes, then its worth it. I know this can't be easy for her either. I think she is getting a reality check on just who my H is, and hes not the guy she thinks/thought he was. That is between them though.
Going to see my C in about an hour and I'll have something to talk about now. Lol!
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Corey, I never expected you to be friends. Who would want to be?? I guess I was just thinking you could maybe get a feel for the bs H was giving her. I probably didn't phrase that well and puppy is right, it would most likely be lies anyway.
Any time I made contact with the skank, she took off her My space page and made her phone number unlisted(it had been listed under her former husbands name).
But really it isn't even all about "her", because she could have been anyone. The whole mess is about "him" and his lack of morales and self-esteem. They are like a boat cut loose during a storm...causing damage everywhere they go with no one steering.
Hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Corey, I never expected you to be friends. Who would want to be?? I guess I was just thinking you could maybe get a feel for the bs H was giving her. I probably didn't phrase that well and puppy is right, it would most likely be lies anyway.
(((Kat))) I knew you weren't suggesting that. I really did give it some thought too, but I don't think that its going to do anyone any good right now. Maybe later, just not now.
Originally Posted By: kat727
But really it isn't even all about "her", because she could have been anyone. The whole mess is about "him" and his lack of morales and self-esteem. They are like a boat cut loose during a storm...causing damage everywhere they go with no one steering. Hugs, kat
AMEN. You hit the nail right on the head. You are the Queen!
BTW...the C said I did just right. That it wouldn't have done me any good and that the best thing I can do is just stay out of it and that was as out of it as I could be.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
A little late here on the comments, but good job thinking on your feet. I think any of us would have been shocked to get that sort of apology from OW/OM.
Wow, Corey! Just catching up, and I can't believe she called you! Texted, I mean! If I went through something like that, I can't even begin to imagine how I'd handle it!
You did handle it very gracefully though - BIG KUDOS to you, girlie!
(((((((Corey)))))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
(((((All of you)))) You are all so wonderful. Thanks. I really just didn't know what else to do, but its one of the things I am trying to do for myself. I'm really trying to take a step(or 10)back from the situation and just do the "right" thing as a person. As much as I have wanted to blast her, her sending me those texts tells me that she is feeling it. If I had blasted her, then it would have been the perfect opportunity for her to feel "justified" because I'm such a biatch. Being gracious took that away.
H starts IC on friday, maybe he is trying to get her to go too. Who knows. Its just a waiting game and all I can do is stuff for me and not get bogged down in their BS, which I have been letting myself do. They'll screw it up if left to their own devices. I have decided that no matter what happens, I'm going to be just fine. I will be the best mother to my kids that I can and try not to live a "do as I say, not as I do" lifestyle.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
If I went through something like that, I can't even begin to imagine how I'd handle it!