I am SO glad that you're finally reading Erin Thiele's, "How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage." I hope you also read her other book "A Wise Woman: By a FOOL Who First Built on Sinking Sand" too -- as it was the foundation upon which she built her ministry.
What you will learn as you read her books, is that the good news is, that it is NOT about our H's seeing the changes in us.
It is about GOD seeing our changes!!
Whether our H's are around to notice the changes or not -- is NOT important. In time, they will, when God deems it appropriate.
We must ALWAYS remember to keep our focus where it belongs...on GOD.
Our motivation must not be that we're doing any of this for our H's...our motivation must be to put God FIRST in our lives and to do to God's will...whatever that is...
God will bring our H's back to us once we choose to make the necessary changes and He knows that we are ready for the restoration.
God is WAITING for us to CHOOSE to make the changes in ourselves and in our own lives!
And until we choose to make the changes in ourselves, instead of waiting for our H's to change...there will be no restoration.
A mistake that almost everyone makes on this spiritual journey is putting the focus on their H's. And living their lives feeding on every last contact, word or visit etc. And when there is none...they are bereft. And that is 100% arrogance and ego. That is making the H an idol.
The impetus for a stand must be pure. And our motivation must be to do God's will.
I pray that Erin's books will open your eyes, heart and mind as they did for me. As I've told you before, they changed my life.
