I walked into this place, and felt like I was in a rat hole!!!! It was nothing but a small store front with 1 activity room. The people there didn't seem to have their act together at all. I was very uncomfortable, and my wife noticed. She kept asking me what was wrong, and I said "nothing". She knew better though, and after I paid the money, we were walking to the parking lot and she said "what's the deal?". I replied "aww, it's probably just my obssessive nature or something". I tried to leave it alone, but she pressed the issue and I just flat out told her "I'm just not comfortable okay!". Then I got in my truck and left. I don't know if this was a bad thing to say or not, being that I'm supposed to act as if and all. When it comes to my kid, I tend to get very emotional and she knows that. Even when we were inside the "rat hole", and she asked me what was wrong, it was almost as if she were "taunting". She had this grin on her face as if to say "finally, you know you can't control something, and it's eating you alive isn't it?"
Maybe she wasn't feeling that way, but it sure seemed so.
Firedog, I was just reading your posts and needed to comment on this one point especially...
I don't know if this was a bad thing to say or not, being that I'm supposed to act as if and all.
You should never act 'as if' when it comes to the welfare of you daughter. Acting as if relates to your interactions with W's actions. You should not let the things she does bother you and you should appear as though you are not distraught, depressed, etc. Act as if you are happy and in control. If the daycare staff concerns you, this needs to be clearly expressed to your W. If I read this correctly, you are the one that paid the bill here right? You need to have some input on these decisions.
I don't think I have any unique words of wisdom for you. Keep yourself healthy and busy. GAL and enjoy yourself. Make the best of your times with your daughter. My W moved out back in April and things haven't changed at all for us to this point. Much of what you have written reminds me of my situation. Her decision to move out and then a couple of months into it, she is complaining about how hard it is for her financially. It upsets me (as it does you) that none of this was my decision and yet here I am forced to consider selling our house because she wants her share of the equity.
Focus on the happiness of you and daughter at this point. Things can and will get better. The house and furnishing are just material things and can be replaced.
