Been reading this thread a bit. I think we need to recognize that a trip to Disney following a funeral of someone we love and will miss doesn't have a chance of being a good time. These kids are mourning. In XH defense, he did consider not taking them at all. He is awake enough (for the moment) to recognize a less than brilliant vacation timing. H.
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
