I agree with GF - just be there for her and listen to her. I actually wouldn't "coach" her on what to say or not say to him. I think she's old enough to decide that. And I think one of the worst things you could do, actually, is teach her to "stuff" her feelings rather than say things like that to her Dad. She'll naturally do it anyway if he keeps hurting her.. but you don't want to push her to handle her feelings that way. Make sense?
GF is right.. you don't know what's going on in his head. The way he snapped at her actually makes me think he IS considering it, and he's mad that she's hurting (he took it out on her, but my guess is he's mad at himself.. she had a point and he knows it). Not that *I* know what's going on in his head either, but that's my guess.
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Anyway, H also called a little bit ago to tell me he's coming on Sunday to get the rest of his stuff....seems like I need to get resigned to the fact that he's never coming back.
Probably a good mindset so that you'll take the best possible care of yourself and your D.
He may come back, so you can keep the door open a crack if you want - but focusing on yourself and your future happiness is the best possible goal right now.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
