Thanks for stopping by! There's a fine line with XH between too much and too little contact. If I go dark he doesn't like it and if I contact him to much he doesn't like that either. So I think 1 phone call a day is prob what works right now.
He's sick today. I found out at about 6:30pm when I told him my class was going ahead. He took D to the club this morning and then he had a class. I spoke to him at 3 and he semed fine. At 6:30 he said he had a fever and felt sick. I asked him since when and he told me since midday. So I asked him why he didn't bring D home but he said he was fine and was wearing a sweater. I told him I'd be home at 9. When I got here he was in a rotten mood (obviously he's sick) and he left.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
I was supposed to have my IC today at 11am but I had to cancel for 2 reasons. 1) XH is sick and can't take care of D this morning 2) We don't have any water right now so I can't even brush my teeth. (bleh) I called my C and he rescheduled me for 3pm. Spoke to XH also and he said he'll take D to her swimming lesson later this afternoon and if there is still no water in the apt. then I could go with them and shower in the club.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Going dark and avoiding all phone calls doesn't work, especially for your situation, but I find it hard to believe you have to call him once a day to keep him happy.
Let him initiate some contact unless it's absolutely necessary.
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
I'll hold off calling him until later in the day that way he has time to contact me. I guess I'll take his lead from now on only call for very important stuff.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
I did ask him if he needed anything and he said no. He doesn't like to be fussed over.
He picked us up at 2pm and we went to the club. He slept most of the afternoon. I took a little sun, floated/swam in the pool and D played and swam. D and I ate and then we came home. XH is sick with tummy aches and a fever. I guess he's off to his parents house to rest and sleep well.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Yes poor thing but he's even more moody when he's sick
When we went to the club I soaked up some rays then swam a bit. I showered after all that and it was one of the best showers I have had in a long time. I think I must have been in there for at least 30 minutes. lol
The water was on when we got back and so I finally got a chance to wash those murky dishes and clean up the kitchen.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
How are you doing? Do you have water and no more stinky breath??