Glad you had fun. I would have a heart to heart with H. He just maybe having a hard time letting go too...understandable. But to me, without change and dumping OW its all still the same. Been there done that!
Thinking about you.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
It's been really busy at work and with my being off for a couple of days, only makes it worse.
It's my lunch, so I thought I'd update.
Today is my 14-year wedding anniversary. Nothing was said of it between H & I yet. You know, it's not as hard this year as I thought it would be. Maybe it's because H is still at home. I'm not sure.
Last Thursday evening, H, D4 and I left to go visit my in-laws in IN. On Friday morning, H & his brother left for Milwaukee, WI and went to Harley Fest. My SIL had called me earlier in the week and invited me to go up with her on Saturday and meet H & BIL.
On Friday, D4 and I went to spend some time with a good friend and her son. We had a good time. That evening, we spent it with my SIL & niece. My SIL tends to drink a bit too much when she gets started. She had some friends over and they were still up partying when I went in to snuggle in bed with D4 at midnight. Thankfully I didn't have more than a couple beers and felt good the next morning.
On Sat., my FIL came over to watch the girls so SIL and I could head up to Milwaukee. For most of the day, we had a great time. H was very accomodating to anything that I needed and we laughed and had a lot of fun together. We went to see Bruce Springsteen that night and that was great too. The bad part of the evening came when (again), my SIL had too much to drink. She's already a controlling person, but put alcohol in her and her level of control skyrockets. She wandered off from us. My BIL kept saying that if she didn't come back he'd just leave her there. She called me several times on my cell, but I couldn't hear her over the music. We finally found her at the end of the show and she blew up at me....swearing and yelling at me for not coming to where she was. She then would not talk to me. Even after sobering up the next day she would barely talk to me! Thankfully I didn't have to ride the 2 hrs. home with her on Sat. night. H rode with me and she rode with my BIL. H and I stayed at my FIL's. We went out for breakfast together and just had a nice time.
On Sunday, we spent some time with FIL & again, over at BIL's.....with SIL not talking to us. It was a pretty relaxing day. That night at his dad's, or should I say at 1:30 Monday morning, H's phone started beeping as if someone had just left a voicemail. H had fallen asleep in the living room and D4 & I were in the bedroom. I looked at his phone and it was OW. I was extremely close to calling her right back and letting her know how wrong it was for her to call like that. I'd had a few beers that night and knew that the alcohol might make me say things I'd regret.....or maybe not.
On Monday morning, I let H know about the call. I let him know how wrong it was that she called at 1:30 am, waking me up and how close I was to calling her back. H didn't say much but had a look of embarassement and put his head down like a scolded puppy.
We spent all of Monday with some friends of ours that we haven't seen in a while. D4 and I also went to visit her old babysitter. We hadn't seen her in 3 years, so she was very excited to see us.
On Tues., we got up and headed for home. We decided to take a route we don't normally take and it was LONG. Not fun.
I'm trying to decide how to approach a conversation with H. He's said a few things that have thrown me lately. Last night we sat down for dinner and D4 asked if she could eat in her room. H told her no....daddy isn't home every night because of work and we need to start sitting down together to eat on the nights I am. He's also been a lot more helpful with D4. I told a good friend this morning that I don't know if he's doing all the positive things he's doing to keep in good with me until he's ready to bolt or if, having seen changes, is testing the waters to see if they're going to last and if it something he wants. And yes, I know that it has to be something that I want too.
Well, that's my story for now. Not much forward movement as far as knowing where things stand, but a lot of time spent together between me, D4 and H.
SueS
Last edited by SueS; 09/03/0806:56 PM.
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
Sounds like a great weekend, Sue. You SIL is a handful though. She needs to learn to text if she needs to send a message at a concert. I'm glad you ignored her after that. I hope H is coming around. I don't think he liked sleeping in the car.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Does anyone remember if they were going out of town for the holiday weekend? Maybe we'll see her this week sometime?